You are not to blame - you didn't ask for this!

Even though your husband’s acting out hurts you deeply, it’s important to know that nothing you did caused him to do it. You couldn’t have prevented it, and you can’t cure or control it. It’s entirely on his shoulders.
Sex addiction often starts in adolescence, and your husband was likely acting out long before he met you. There’s nothing you can do to stop an unrecovered addict from seeking their “drug.”
Instead, focus on your feelings, self-care, safety, and security and not look to your husband for instant relief. His addiction got you both here, so it’s not likely he can do anything of real value to help you at this point.
It is difficult to detach and turn your attention away from the person you love the most, who also hurt you the most, but this is the quickest path to healing and empowerment.
DO NOT ISOLATE – Trauma victims often tend to isolate and withdraw. For those dealing with betrayal trauma, this can feel even worse because “who really understands this?” Well-meaning friends and family may sometimes offer uninformed advice, causing more confusion and pain, as they try to “fix it” instead of listening with empathy. You’ve probably already heard: “If it happened to me, I’d pack my stuff and walk out the door”! If only it were that simple…..
It is recommended you connect with safe people, as healing happens within a community. Our brains need to process our wounds and rediscover who we are within the context of our relationships. Build a support system of safe people. Find support groups that specialise in betrayal trauma partner recovery. Seek hope, resources, and support from others who have healed from the effects of their partner’s sex addiction.
Setting new boundaries around what you will and won’t tolerate from your sexually addicted partner, whether they are in recovery or not, can empower you and create a sense of safety. These boundaries will help you find stable ground for deciding your next steps.